Comments on: Sometimes You Just Have To Hit Delete On That Toxic Friend!

By: Choctaw Princess Warrior

Choctaw Princess Warrior — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 18:53:36 +0000

Great post! I like seeing someone with a backbone to stand up to “friends” who behave badly. My former BFF, who actually broke off the friendship with me initially (because I didn’t call her for 1 week), is the supreme drama queen. I was relieved when she didn’t want to hang around me anymore, but I was not excited about all the lies she spread about me and my fiancee in our small town. But I’ll take that anyday compared to the manipulating/controlling/narcissistic behavior of my former BFF who ALWAYS wanted me around her & god forbid, I have something in my life that’s important because I would quickly be told what a waste of time it was or she would try to usurp any kind of recognition she could from it. O & did I tell you that, Leann Rimes stole my former BFF’s recording contract??!! Yes, you read that right…grandiose fantasies! The last 2 years of our friendship (we were only friends for 3 years), I threw up almost everyday from complications with a stomach ulcer. Once she was gone so were my problems with my ulcer! Coincidence?? I think not! So when she came crawling back to be my friend after she ran my name through the dirt, I had no problem telling her to “f*** off”. She STILL tries to contact me but I’m no fool, she’s just gotten better at her game as she’s aged and I still want nothing to do with her. Good riddance!

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By: handmade shop

handmade shop — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 22:22:39 +0000

Say it again, please.

By: Michele

Michele — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 20:04:41 +0000

Okay, so I am so late to the ball on this one… Something I realized lately is one of the reasons I kept some of my toxic friendships for so long is I didn’t want to hurt their feelings by ending the friendship. The thing is, toxic people do not care about YOUR feelings. Now, I’m not going to follow that with, “Since they don’t care about you,why care about them?” Non-toxic people DO care because we do think about people besides ourselves and do have empathy and sympathy and DON’T want to do the same garbage onto others.

BUT…at the same time we don’t need to put up with this. Yes, you are going to hurt or even anger the other person by ending the friendship, especially if they don’t take the fact that you don’t return phone calls and such as a hint and keep pursuing you. And the toxic person may not even behave maturely after you break off contact. I just had to do this recently, and the person sent nasty emails to me AND my husband and posted rude comments on my blog. Her actions only confirmed that I had made the right decision to end the relationship rather than hurt me, which is what I think she hoped to do.

By: complicated mama

complicated mama — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 17:20:13 +0000

Found you through Scary Mommy… loved this post. It is so true!!

For the new year I have vowed to only surround myself with positive people and focus on happiness!

And PS- that friend of your sisters has issues if shes married w 3 kids and cant get over an ex from 7 yrs ago!

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 05:14:47 +0000

Great article! A few years ago my husband hired a guy he was friends with but lost touch with. After he hired him I met his wife and she and I became instant friends. We hung out for about year…..until my husband changed jobs and he was no longer his friend’s boss. Guess what? My so-called friend dropped me. I was so upset for months. I even confronted her about it and she completely denies it. We have mutual friends so I do see her and sometimes she says Hi and sometimes she ignores me. I’ve finally reached a point of peace with it….and I feel very sorry for her! Of course my husband owns his own business now and hers is still a loser LOL!

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By: This Mama Works It!

This Mama Works It! — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 17:17:02 +0000

Well said girl!! I can not stand the drama making friends. Your hubby is right it is like have a real girlfriend when they need so much attention and coddling. Thanks for stopping by!

By: Jen @ After The Alter

Jen @ After The Alter — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 16:59:46 +0000

I totally agree with this post! I used to have all this drama in my life and at one point I decided that I just didn’t need it! What’s the point of having a friend that always brings drama?? It shouldn’t be so hard! My husband used to call those friends my “girlfriends” as in literal girlfriends cause I had to coddle them and make them feel good.lol..I mean I already have a spouse that needs that! So now I keep people in my life that make me feel happy to be around htem, and happy to be their friend. No more drama here! (well normally)