Yesterday was a bad day! It was crappy day! It was a day that I could have just stayed in bed all day and watched Seinfeld reruns. But, just like most of you, I have little kids and there was no way I was sleeping in past 7:00am.
Moms should be allowed to have bad days too dammit!!
Anyway, I went back to work this week after a long nice two week vacation with hubby and kids. It was awesome just hung out with my family and took care of the kids. Nothing else to worry about. Well the party, and la la land, was over for me come Monday morning when I jump back into my reality of actual having a full-time job.
Work was good nothing really to complain about there. Except the fact that work gets in the way off life most days. With being at work I am hard pressed to find time to keep my house clean, organized, etc... However hubby and I did a great job of trying to keep it all together and make the work week as easy as possible. For example, we cooked and froze a week's worth of nice homemade meals (this was awesome), tried to do laundry during the week, and tried but failed miserably to keep our house from looking like a bomb went off. So we tried and we will keep trying. But come Friday I was totally and utterly exhausted. But I still mustered up the strength to bring my girls to a play area friday night and we had a blast.
Now the real issue happened Friday night into Saturday morning. You see my diva2 DOES NOT SLEEP! Ok sometimes she does but for some reason once a week sometimes twice she is getting up all night. And for some reason hubby is able to sleep right through it...hmmmm.
So I was up all night. Maybe 3 hours of sleep. So I was tired, cranky, and pissed off at the world. I had so much I wanted to accomplish and did not have an ounce of energy to do so. I know you mamas out there know exactly what I am talking about.
So I did the unthinkable!!! I mean how dare I! I took a nap!! GASP!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes I took a nap. Granted it wasn't a full nap since my diva1 kept running up to see me and my dog for some reason needs to stand right over me with its nose right up to mine. But still I layed down for a few hours and shut my eyes.
Well I don't know what I was thinking. I thought how nice it would be if hubby and diva1 decided to surprise me and clean up a little while mommy was sleeping. I mean when do I EVER take a nap? NEVER! Well was I wrong. I come downstairs and the house was trashed! So I ask hubby "What have you been doing this whole time? Why didn't you clean up?". He says "Why would I clean when you are sleeping I am not your servant." WHAT???!!!!??? OMG I was livid and of course had a few choice words for him. I mean is it so hard to see that your wife, mother of your children, partner in life, the only person you have sex with is not feeling well and needs a break. Is that so hard to comprehend? Why does it have to turn into a battle. A pride thing. So even though my hubby is a great guy and an amazing hubby and dad. However he is still a guy and his sensitivity radar at times is off. Well yesterday was one of those time.
What makes my hubby different I think from some other guys out there is he can see quickly when he is wrong. Or maybe he just thinks if he ever wants to have sex again he better be nice to me. hahaha...but seriously. So he apologizes for being an insensitive idiot. I forgive him.
Ok so now me and hubby are back on the same page. Which we need to be to tackle our kids who at this point are running around the house like someone just gave them a sugar stick. The night is almost over and my patience is running thin. Got the kids in a bath which I swear almost sent me right to the looney bin.
Not quite ready for bed yet. I decide let's have movie night. I make the popcorn and we all snuggle under a blanket and watch Toy Story 2. It was finally quite. Finally. Hubby and I at one point just look at each other and smile. We did it!
Even though I try my hardest to work it some days are going to get the best of me and I might be in a bad mood. I am human. All moms are human. And all moms at some point are going to reach their breaking point and will just need a break. If you can take that break. Even if it is just for a few minutes. That may be all you need. But it is important to recognize when life is getting to be a bit to much. Take a nap, take a drive, call a friend, do whatever you can to recharge your battery. Because what I have found is "When Mommy is Happy Everyone is Happy!"
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Great post!
I’ve learned that when my body say nap, I NAP! or I’m a bitch to my girls. And god bless them, they’ve learned that when I say I need to nap, they let me! So I agree with you – recharge however you need to.
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How is it that dads can sleep right through a baby’s crying?
Naps are a necessity for moms!
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I was laughing the entire time I ready your post. It just hit too close to home.
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I fully agree, it’s super important to recharge your battery. And why is it that husbands always sleep through the baby crying? What is that about? I used to be a heavy sleeper, but now that I have a child, nope, no more heavy sleeping for me – I wake up when the dog rolls over, it’s ridiculous!
all women must have the same experience, the most important is how we deal with patience and set the time to take care of the family, one of the most important thing is to allow time for the self to relax.
Wow, what a day! I think you could be talking about any of us- and totally agree with the hubby sleeping through baby crying thing. How is that fair??
You totally deserved the nap, I hope you get some good sleep tonight!
Thanks Ladies!!!
Oooh, hubby would be in trouble. lol. Mine never cleans up, though, either…but you deserve naps! I love them.
My daughters swear I had a potty mouth, but I categorically deny that! LOL Thanks for being normal. The world will be a better place because your children are raised by real humans.
Your post totally reminded me when my kids were little. Trying to do it all IS NOT EASY! Actually, as you know, it impossible. So the best you can do is the stuff you mentioned. Try to get that nap in, take a drive, talk to a friend and communicate your feelings to your spouse.
Your last line cracks me up. Because my husband and I have been married almost thirty years. And he know this line by heart and he would repeat it to our kids, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”.
Works for me!
Judy, normal is the only way I know how to be. Too much energy to try to be anything else. hahaha I love the comment about real human especially since I live in an alien world at times… but thanks for the compliment!
And JAM yes trying to do it all is not easy that is for sure. It is only tuesday and I feel like I am going to past out just typing this.
Crystal, yes hubby was in trouble
If momma aint happy, nobody’s happy!!!
I have been there! I am learning to recognise when I am in need of a MTO (Mommy time out) but I never actually do anything about it until it is way too late!
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