Yesterday my husband was leaving for work and I was sitting on the couch enjoying my yummy cup of coffee with french vanilla creamer. I looked over at him and thought to myself "wow my hubby is hot" so I said to him "Honey you look really hot today". He goes "I do?" and I say "Yeah I think you look really good" and then he says "Now if I can just get you to have sex with me" and I said "What are you talking about we have sex?" and he says "Ok honey see you after work love ya". Then he just leaves for work with that statement hanging in the air.
So I started to think about when the last time we did the deed. I knew it was recently but I could not remember when. Oops! But I think I should be cut some slack we have two kids, we work full-time, have a house to maintain, and hmmm what other excuse can I think of... But in all seriousness life is busy. However, I know that we should make time for sex. Because if we don't then honestly I think weeks could go by and I would not even notice. Oops again.
Also, I think men and women have completely different expectations on what is considered a sufficient amount of sex. When I ask my hubby what would be an ideal sex week he says at least 3-4 times a week. WHAT!?! Are you crazy? I mean come on not sure if you noticed but we are not living the college life anymore. I mean the days of spontaneity are long gone. At least for now. I would be happy with 1-2 times a week but I am not going to lose my mind if it doesn't happen. Not that my hubby doesn't turn me on because he does. But do I need to say again how crazy busy life gets.
Lucky for my hubby I think it is really important to have a healthy sexual relationship with your significant other. But what's the average? I mean for a happy married couple in my situation what is a normal amount of sex? Once a week? Twice? And with life being so busy how the heck does a women keep "sex with hubby" at the top of the to-do list? Or should I say "Honey Do" List!
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Hi! I’m visiting from MBC. Great blog.
What a fab post!!! Hubby and I have a 6 month old and we’re still trying to get a routine down. I know he wants more sex, but I’m always so tired…not to mention he gets home from work at 11p and I wake up at 6a for work. Hopefully well figure out something that works for us!
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It is just so hard sometimes to make time for sex!! I think that anyone with young kids just finds it so much easier to choose sleep over sex. I have “friends” who brag about how they do it with their husbands like jackrabbits…and I’m sitting there thinking, “WOW. She’s had sex more in the past week than I’ve had all year!”
We are trying to get better about making time though. I really do notice a difference in our relationship when we have some intimacy.
I LOVE your blog so much by the way.
Figure out the solution to this one and you will become an instant success!
PS Did you move your blog or change it in some way? Maybe I am just imagining things…
My husband and I would BOTH much rather sleep, so we get into sex ruts sometimes. But, we try to be conscience of it and make dates for sex. Spontaneity is something we don’t do anymore. It has to be planned after our son has gone to bed. I know, we are terrible. Sometimes, a comfy bed, a good book and a cup of hot tea is more important. I can’t believe I just said that.
Perhaps things would be more exciting if the husbands worked your L-Spot.
http://www.marriedmansexlife.com/2010/01/work-l-spot-she-will-beg-you-for-more.html
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